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Plastic Surgery

I wanted to pose a question to other Christians and especially Christian Moms: is it profitable to a Christian and especially a Christian mother to get plastic surgery? (considering a mother’s decisions affect the way her children think and learn)

The reason I’m asking is this: My body has been completely destroyed appearance-wise by having my 3 kids. My belly button is almost permanently popped, and I have stretch marks from my chest down to my thighs. I always thought I would consider plastic surgery once I’m done having kids (which I am!) but I’m starting to feel convicted that plastic surgery is not in mine or my family’s best interest. I used to have a body that I was very comfortable in, I was happy to wear whatever I wanted and I always felt attractive. Those days seem to be few and far between lately, as with every child I got a little more stretched and saggy, a little more lumpy and bumpy, and a little more dissatisfied. I’ll admit I haven’t done everything I could in regards to exercise and eating healthy, but I am active, and I don’t drown myself in 27 chocolate bars all day. The thing I always go back to is no matter what I eat or do, nothing will change the stretch marks. Many women have said that they are “signs of love” or something else sentimental and I just can’t get myself to see it that way.
What I’ve been feeling lately, is that while it’s not “wrong” to want to look nice and present yourself fit and healthy, (even the proverbs 31 woman dressed in fine linens) fit and healthy comes in all different shapes and sizes. I’m starting to feel like I need to “get over myself” and move on from the quest to have my old body back. I also have been wondering how I would teach my own daughter and sons about what to look for in a woman: outward or inward beauty? And do I teach them that if you don’t like something about your body, just go ahead and have it changed? Also, what about contentment? Aren’t we supposed to be content in all circumstances? (Phil. 4:11,12, 1 Tim. 6:6, Hebrews 13:5) And lastly, probably the most important, vanity. My body is like dust (Psalm 103:14), I am only here for a flash in time. Is plastic surgery something that I should be spending my time thinking about, and spending my money on? Surely there is a more profitable cause to give thousands of dollars to than “fixing” a body that really doesn’t need fixing, a body that won’t last much longer.
What do you all think?
Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”.

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City Church

I’m sorry this is so lumped together – I can’t figure out how to get paragraph separations to work on this thing. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t. :(  It seems to me that there is a new wave of church fad right now. You might think it’s the mega church with people like Joel Osteen and others who are creating a massive empire out of themselves, but this is a less massive movement that has gone a little under the radar. It’s a following of a small “core” group of people who meet in a downtown or less-to-do neighborhood and call themselves a Church. This group of people is almost always under the age of 40, usually in and around their late twenties and early thirties. They have felt a calling toward the inner city and feel that the larger institutionalized churches aren’t meeting the needs of the people living there. Usually you will find them on Saturday nights or Sundays in a building that doubles as a place of business. The pastors of these churches are often the counter culture types, who call themselves a full time pastor but have ties/partially own the business that is running out of the building they are using for their church. (And I don’t mean that condescendingly, I mean it simply as a fact.) I have a lot to say about these churches in general so I’m going to try to organize my thoughts a little.  I’ll start by saying that I acknowledge that all of these churches are individual and usually not associated with one another (there’s no formal “denomination”) but there are often a LOT of similarities between them all. Such as the ones in the previous paragraph.   My first issue: Isn’t the place of worship supposed to be sacred?  Most of these churches operate out of a building used for business every other time that the church is not using it. (Or even at the same time, the church just might be in a different room from where the business is operated) The building may also be rented out to different artistic venues, such as concerts, art shows, theatre productions, etc. I believe that tying a business up with God’s house is a very dangerous line to walk upon.  Jesus showed how strongly he felt about this when he displayed his righteous anger towards the money changers and those who were selling their goods in the temple. He specifically said in Matthew 21:13 “It is written, ‘My house shall be called a house of prayer; but you are making it a robber’s den.’ “ Many will argue the other verses where it is written that Christ does not dwell in buildings but within Man, and a host of other scripture taken out of context, but one must ask: if all God cared about was what is in our hearts(and not what we do), why would Jesus have had such a severe response to what was happening in God’s house? Shouldn’t we have the same perspective as Christ and be sure that God’s house is kept sacred?    My second issue: Where are the older and wiser? Older doesn’t always mean wiser, I know that. But I know a whole lot more people who are wise that are old, than people who are wise and young. It seems that these churches rarely have anyone attending that are over 40, and definitely not over 50. They also often don’t have anyone under 20, except for the young children of the 30-somethings that make up the vast majority of the church body. I think this younger generation have excused all older and wiser people as stuffy, controlling, and set in their ways and have made off to do their own thing. They forget that within that demographic are a lot of very dedicated Christians who read their bible daily and have been for at least 30 years and have been on this earth long enough to recognize the Truth from a lie. These 50, 60, 70, 80, even 90-somethings have a LOT to give to a body of young believers, and I think this is a crucial part of the body. Think of a body of Christ as just that – a body. If all you have is a bunch of eyes and legs, it doesn’t make for a very complete body.  My third issuse: Speaking of Christians, why can’t I call you a Christian? This new trend is not exclusive to the city church, but I felt like touching on it because it’s in the article that drove me to write this post. Many Christians are coming up with new words to call themselves because “Christian” has got a bad stigma to it. They are forgetting that Christ himself told the disciples that people weren’t going to like them or like it when they came around. If you are a Christian (or whatever you chose to call it) and aim to be Christlike, and like the disciples were, people aren’t going to like you or the message you have anyways, it doesn’t matter what you call yourself. Every last disciple except one was killed for their belief! Being persecuted for who we are in Christ should be readily accepted, it means we are living the way that the men and women of Christ’s day did, not something to be ashamed of and try to warp so that people don’t hate us as much. The definition of Christian from Webster’s Dictionary is “one who professes belief in the teachings of Jesus Christ”. And so if the shoe fits…. My Fourth issue: Misplaced Respect (OK, more of a general issue, but the circumstance applies to the city church and is relevant in it’s example to other like churches) I think the word respect is overused. And I think it has lost it’s meaning. The article that I referred to earlier said something that I thought was just completely backwards. Here it is: “After a screaming rock session with offensive lyrics, artists approach him (the pastor) saying, “Thanks for showing us respect. Most people don’t respect us.” One of the core values of <insert church name here> is to grant dignity to everyone they meet.” There is a big difference between dignity and respect!! The previous paragraph in the article was highlighting what goes on during a typical Sunday morning, where they invite their artists to “share what’s in their soul, even if it’s dark and unbiblical and then we communicate respect” so I’m quite sure that this particular band played on a Sunday morning during a church service. How is it respectful to God to allow something like this to disrupt the time He set aside for us to show him worship and praise? It’s not. It’s also not respectful of this band to play in this kind of setting – in thinking that being allowed to play would be a demonstration of respect on the behalf of the people who are allowing them, they have fully disrespected the people allowing them!! It’s so backwards! A better way to reach these people is for the pastor to do the leading on Sunday morning, and save people’s “expression of their soul” for another time, because doing it like this is disrespectful to God, nevermind the Christians who are supposed to be doing “church”.  Which leads me to my fifth issue. My Fifth issue: This is not what “church” was designed for. A question: When Christ went around from city to city, what was his purpose? Was his purpose to invite people to the temple or to someone’s house for church? Was his purpose to get to know Him so that they might want to hang out with him more? Was he careful not to offend, or politically correct about the way he spoke? What about any of his other disciples? How about Paul? Was Paul looking for popularity? All of these men were searching for lost souls. And I love that these inner city churches are considering the lost souls that are often forgotten by community and large denominational churches. I give them 100% kudos for that. I also believe that every person is unique, and individual, and therefore the way that we approach the gospel which each of them is unique and individual. However. None of these men used church as we know it to reach them. Reaching the unsaved was something they did outside of the meeting of the body of believers, which is what church is and should be. God cares about what we do on Sunday morning. He’s given lots of instruction about it in His word. A few different points about church from the Bible:

  •  1 Tim. 2:5  We don’t need any human mediators between us and God – Christ is that man now.
  • 1 Tim. 2:8  Men lift up their holy hands to pray, literally or figuratively
  • 1 Tim. 2:9  Women should dress modestly and discreetly, and with good works
  • 1 Tim 2:10 Women shouldn’t teach or exercise authority over men during church
  • 1 Tim 3:2-7 Instruction regarding an “overseer”, either a pastor, bishop, elder, or whatever you chose to call it.
  • 1 Tim 3:8-13 Instruction regarding deacons
I’ve never read a passage in the bible that says “Here is the exact layout in it’s entirety of what must happen during a church meeting”. We have portions of things to go on and general basic instruction, but the fluff of the meeting is usually individual. We can, however, take our layout from the example of the believers in the Bible. All of the letters in the bible are written to the believers in the church – and none of them tell them to invite people to come to their church to make it bigger, or as a way of introducing someone to “church”. It seems that we get so caught up in wanting to grow our churches, and get people to start going to church, forgetting that salvation is more important. Most churches don’t preach the gospel every Sunday morning, so is that really the place that non-Christians should be? Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of souls that have been saved as a result of Sunday morning, I don’t discount that. I just think that our Biblical model says that is not the place where souls usually are saved. Sunday morning is for the renewing of the Christian mind, for teaching, for correction, for worship, for praise, for fellowship. If not on Sunday morning with our body of Christ that we are a part of, then when? We as Christians should be professing Christ and leading people to Him in our daily lives, and not just on Sunday morning. I found this statement from the article a little alarming: “In fact, some Christians who have attended <insert church name here> say they love it, but that they want ‘more worship and deeper teaching.’ At times like these, <Pastor> and his leadership team go back to the purpose of their church. ‘Our focus is to give ourselves away,’ he says.” Is this what God wants the purpose of church to be? A mission? I believe the people who start these churches and attend these churches have a very noble focus, and are doing a great service to the community they are working with. However, in order to be the best they can be, and “give themselves away”, they need be filling themselves back up again too – by attending a church filled with believers, not one filled with non believers, and a church where the Body is complete. They also need to show that there is a difference between Christians and non Christians. Many Christians have decided that they don’t want to be any different than non Christians, which is sad. The Bible specifically says in Ephesians 4:17,18 “So this I say, and affirm together with the Lord, that you walk no longer just as the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their mind, being darkened in their understanding, excluded form the life of god because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardness of their heart” and then in vs. 22-24 “that, in reference to your former manner of life, you lay aside the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit, and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and put on the new self, which in the likeness of god has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth”. It then goes on in verses 25-32 and into chapter 5 talking about all the different things you used to do, and don’t do now that you’re a Christian. If a non Christian doesn’t see any difference between you and them, then where is the need for a saviour? What is the point in having Christ in their life?
 
Ok, back on track, off the tangent!
 
It just makes me wonder what is being preached at these kinds of church on Sunday morning. Is the focus on the people who are coming in? Or is the focus on God? Is the opportunity of having so many unsaved people coming in and out being capitalized on each and every time? I don’t doubt that people are being saved. And we should all be glad for it, I know there is rejoicing in heaven every time someone comes to know Him. But I am wondering if they are won over to a light-hearted “be yourself” kind of gospel or if they are won to the Truth, to the “be who God wants you to be” gospel. What you want to do and what God wants you to do aren’t always aligned. 
 
 
All churches have flaws and imperfections. We are imperfect people in an imperfect world. That doesn’t mean that we should live with those imperfections. I am open to correction if anyone wants to give it to me, so long as you can give scripture to back up your position.
I’m glad that these people starting and attending these inner city churches have a heart for the unsaved less fortunate. They are often a demographic that is forgotten. I pray that through our human imperfections that they are able to paint an accurate picture of who Christ is and show that even though he is a “come as you are” kind of saviour, he also wants us to change once we’ve come to him.  

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Those nasty reptiles.

The camp that I grew up going to has family camp on right now, and my dad and step mom and their 2 kids still go every year. So usually one day in the week I’ll take the kids out there for swim, a round of mini golf, and some good times. It’s amazing how much the dynamic changes over 10 years or so. When we started going I was a preteen, and the camp was mostly filled with families with kids ages 12-17 and then there were a fair bit of younger ones too. Either way, it just seemed a lot fuller when I was a kid. Now it’s just a bunch of moms (not complete families) and all kids under the age of 10. I think there are lots of reasons to blame for this. 1. The preteens/teens are too busy/cool to go to camp with their parents. (although when I went? We ditched the ‘rents and had some great times!) 2. The economy being so demanding/competitive as it is in my area makes it difficult for dad’s to take the week off – their priorities for vacation are on a ‘real’ vacation, not camp. 3. It used to be mostly families from the church, and it has since grown into more of an outreach camp to single moms, or other families.

It has also become almost totally exclusive to the one church (out of about 5). This wasn’t intentional or anything, I think it just kind of worked out that way. So now, the majority of families at camp are from that church, or been invited by someone from that church. So that changes the dynamic for adults too, when they all already know each other. PLUS, when it’s all families with really young children, all the adults end up being occupied looking out for their kids and unable to have a good conversation with someone.

Anyways, not really what I wanted to blog about, but there it is. The kids (not mine) yesterday found some salamanders under the trampolines. They were all handling them and taking them to different spots and what not. I thought this was a little gross, but whatever, kids are kids, and a salamander isn’t something you see everyday in the wild. So at lunch time my dad made this big announcement about how salamanders can carry disease on their skin that if touched without washing can make you very very sick and even prove fatal. After that my step mom informed me of a little boy who touched his pet iguana and didn’t wash afterward and was sick for like, 5 years. I think I might be on the Slow Train or something because I did NOT know this! I mean, I’ve never owned a reptile before, or known anyone who has, so I guess maybe that’s the reason. So I hope all the kids washed their hands! Yick!

I also found out that a friend of mine is pregnant again! So exciting! She thinks she’s about as far along as I am – and she would know – this is her 8th child! She has seven boys. If I had to pick a mom hero, she’d be it! Her kids are so great to each other – I mean, they’re boys, and they wrestle each other and stuff, but they always look out for each other. And they’re really great kids, very respectful, and very obedient! She does such a great job! Oh, and did I mention that she’s like a size 3? She’s about as far along as I am, and you can’t even tell that she’s pregnant yet. Me, I’m sticking out to ‘here’ already. Mind you, I show early, always have. When I was leaving she told me “Next time we see each other we’ll both be fat!” I just laughed and told her that I have a huge headstart on her. She pops out in the last 10 or 12 weeks of her pregnancies and just gets a little basketball and then she’s done. She’s just got amazing insides, she doesn’t have super tiny babies or anything! She usually gets pregnant right away again after her last baby is done nursing, and it took a bit longer than usual this time, so we are all rejoicing! How exciting! And of course, we’re praying for a girl!

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I am so rich.

I have a husband who loves me, and treats me like gold. He genuinly cares for our children, and takes time to spend with them. He slays dragons for us each and every day, and loves to do it. He is always there for us, I can depend on him.

I have 2 healthy happy beautiful kids. They give me love each day without even realizing it. I’m so blessed to be responsible for their care.

I have 3 sets of parents, all of which share my love for the Lord. They pray for us, and care for us. They live close, so we can spend as much time with them as we like. They love our kids, and treat each one the same, with that special grandparent enthusiasm that God gives. They are all healthy, and in a good state of life.

I have many brothers and sisters to thank God for. They are all special to my heart, each and every one of them.

I have a warm and loving Church family. There is always love in His house, among His people there. I know they would be there for us, if ever we should need anything, and I know we’d be happy to do the same for any of them.

I have great friends that keep me busy socially. I appreciate the time that they take for me, to talk to me, or get me out of the house for a while. They are all important to me.

I have all the things I need. God has provided for us, beyond what we deserve and could ever imagine.

I am so rich.

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In regards to the last post

I’ve been thinking this weekend about why I got so fired up over the course of comments on that other blog on Friday. (or whatever day it was. Maybe it was Thursday. Yeah. Thursday.) I think it was just pure shock. I’ve never come across someone before who claims to be a christian (not that I’m saying this person is, or isn’t, that’s between him and God and all I know is what he says!) and yet doesn’t believe that the Bible is the infallible word of God. I think I was just truly shocked, and thought maybe he was just trying to exersize my knowledge or faith or something. Apparantly not. Then, I told my husband about it. And of course he couldn’t let it go either. Just weird. Why can’t we just let these things go? Do we really think we’re going to change somebody’s mind?
I think my two biggest things were that: Number one; and most importantly – by saying that while it is divinely inspired, yet impossible for it to be perfect because it was penned by imperfect men, you would be placing limitations upon God, and telling Him that He is unable to control these willing men to pen exactly what He wanted. A so-called “miracle”. I thought God was able to perform miracles. *shrugs* And number two; Believing in the Bible, and God, and even Christ for that matter, requires faith. We as humans just aren’t going to be able to explain everything.

I really have no interest in starting this debate again, we already agreed to disagree, and what not, so that is why I’m just posting my final thoughts and feelings here. I have no animosity or hard feelings toward this person what-so-ever. Just so y’all know.

P.S. I didn’t wear my wedding rings all weekend. Didn’t notice a single stare or even comment! Guess people are too busy to pay attention to me! Haha!

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Light My Fire, Baby!

This has really torqued me today. Feel free to weigh in, either here, or there.

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Psalm 139:1-20

Oh Lord, You have searched me and known me.

You know when I sit down and when I rise up; You understand my thought from afar.

You scrutinize my path and my lying down, And are intimately aquainted with all my ways.

Even before there is a word on my tongue, Behold, O Lord, you know it all.

You have enclosed me behind and before, And laid Your hand upon me.

Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is too high, I cannot attain to it.

Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence?

If I ascend to heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in Sheol, behold, You are there.

If I take the wings of the dawn, If I dwell in the remotest part of the sea,

Even there Your hand will lead me, And Your right hand will lay hold of me.

If I say, “Surely the darkness will overwhelm me, And the light around me will be night,”

Even the darkness is not dark to You, And the night is as bright as the day. Darkness and light are alike to You.

For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb.

I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.

My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth;

Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them.

How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How vast is the sum of them!

If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. When I awake, I am still with you.

O that You would slay the wicked, O God; Depart from me therefore, men of bloodshed.

For they speak against you wickedly, And Your enemies take Your name in vain.

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Where is My Pastor?

I read a great article today from Uplook Magazine from the November 2006 Article.

I attend a church that belongs to the Brethren Assemblies. What sets us apart from other evangelical bible believing churches is that we operate without a Pastor. On purpose. I have been asked many times about how our church works and runs without a Pastor, “Worship Team”, or other such committees within the church. I have attended a Brethren church all of my Christian life, so I’m never really sure how to respond.

Our first service on Sunday morning is our Breaking of Bread service, or communion some might call it. Different men take the opportunity to share what God has pressed upon their hearts for that meeting, and we sing some hymns, and we partake of some bread and grape juice. We do this every Sunday, as we believe it is something to be partaken every time the church body is gathered together for Sunday worship. We follow this service by our regular service, much like any other preaching type service at any other church. Only, there is a different speaker each week. We do assign topics and go with a “theme” or something of the sort, and every now and then the Speaker is free to preach on whatever the Lord has placed upon his heart. We believe very much in the New Testament church as illustrated for us in God’s word, including items such as women remaining silent during teaching services (as in, not teaching or sharing, we’re allowed to cough, or laugh if someone makes a joke! Oh yeah, and we sing too, of course!), Elders to guide the church rather than one man, etc. You can see 1 Timothy as an example for some of these guidelines.

Anyways, I’m just going to leave the article here for you if you’d like to read about it. It’s called Where is Your Pastor? What Should We Say?

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Children of Men

Tonight Dan and I went to see the movie Children of Men. We had gotten some movie passes for Christmas, and we thought we might as well use them! So, in looking for a movie to see tonight, it was a toss between We Are Marshall, and Children of Men. Go and watch the trailer, and you will get the premise of the movie. Don’t worry, I’m not going to give it away in this blog entry, I want you to go watch it for yourself!!

I thought it was very interesting how they adapted from what is going on lately with New Age type “religion”. You know, Yoga, laying on of hands, chanting, the power within type stuff. The idea in the movie, that humankind could pull together to do whatever we need to do, that we have the power within us to do anything, we just need to tap into that, or “summon” it or whatever. The idea that we aren’t in need of a “higher power”, because, as humankind, we can do anything in our togetherness. It makes me so frustrated as a Christian because it is so obviously ignoring the God that gave us life, and gave us the world that we live in. Christ is known as the light, and as believers, we are known as Sons of the light, meaning, we too, project God’s light when we are living our lives according to His plan. See John 12:35, 36, John 8:12, 1 Thess. 5:5. I have been a Christian from a young age, yet I never got serious about it until I was an adult. I went through a lot in my time trying to live away from the Lord, and I believe this to be a great testimony for me in understanding where people are at in their lives. There are so many analagies coming from The Light and The Darkness to use, but I sometimes think that as an adult I’ve almost been blinded by The Light. I don’t forget what it was like to walk without God, but I also don’t understand when people get themselves wrapped up in a lie. Because what I know about God I know with all my heart, and believe it to be true 100%, I don’t understand how anyone could believe anything else to be true! And to get themselves so deeply into it that they are willing to die for their cause. And yet, I am willing to die for my cause. So, it’s basically the same thing as me, only a different ”god” or belief system. I’m not a fan of “tolerance”, the word, or the meaning, but how is it that we get so wrapped up in our own beliefs that we are unable to see the other side? Is this a bad thing? Or a hindrance to our testimony? As a Christian, I would say no, and I bet that anyone of any other belief system would say no for themselves too. But yes to those on the other side. In my young age, I haven’t experienced much, but I know the truths that God has revealed to my heart. “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.”(Matt. 7:7) I’ve seen the effect of Christ on my daily life, and on people around me, and I don’t think anyone could ever convince me that God did not exist. Satan’s influence over One’s mind is strong, but God’s power is abounding and amazing. Even people who are so convinced and trapped in Satan’s lies can find understanding if they look to God. If they would only look. This movie mad me sad for so many people lost in the choas of an ending civilization, yet it seemed that no one was looking beyond themselves for salvation. No one had any idea of a true God that is all powerful and could give them hope. Even in the birth of a miraculous baby, the hope of a new generation was caught up in that baby, instead of hope and faith in the God that created that baby, that created the hope.

Even through the depressing nature of the film, I still really liked the movie, and I think I will see it again. Although it was very easy to follow and understand, there were many scenes where there was more than one thing going on at one time, causing you to possibly miss some things. I think it is a movie that a person could watch again and again. It’s worth your $$ at the theatre to go see it! Just make sure you get high enough seats in the gallery, sitting too close to the screen was giving us a headache at some parts, because it has a lot of live action type camera work, meant to feel like you are right there walking along with them.

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