Moms for Modesty - Watch out for rambling ranting!!
I found this site today, and I rejoiced. I have been overwhelmed lately at the way in which we are trying to raise our little girls and boys to be visually sex orientated. Oriented? I don’t know which word. You know what I’m trying to say.
I was shopping on eBay for a bathing suit for my Little Girl recently when I came across this:
This is a bathing suit for a 12 months size girl. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?! What are we teaching little girls???? And little boys who are looking at little girls wearing this?? I have a big problem with two piece suits for young girls/women to begin with, but this, this just set me off. Especially these days where there are creepy men around watching your little girl. You are just asking for someone to take their camera phone and get a shot of her in this little number.
I am also driven crazy by the “attitude” type slogans seen on little girl’s shirts. Things such as “Boys Drool, Girls Rule”, or “Diva”, or “Drama Queen”. Or those Bratz dolls. They are so glamourized and attitude packed, and we want these little characters to be role models for our girls. It’s no wonder we have feministic type movements with all of this crazy propoganda being thrown around. It’s no wonder that girls are unhappy, and looking to boys to make them happy, and yet feeling unfulfilled because they are taught at the same time that boys are worthless, and the constant race to have one sex be better than the other. (to which men don’t really care to participate on the most part, so it ends up that we as women think we’ve won.) It’s no wonder that kids are engaging in sexual activity as early as 10 or 12 years old. They have seen such visual sexual images from a young age - it’s everywhere. You can’t watch TV for 10 minutes without it being thrust in your face, with no where to run and hide. It’s no wonder that girls are getting that “teenage attitude” of rebellion and snobbyness earlier and earlier. The tougher our exterior, the cooler We(women, girls) are, the better We are.
And so, I’ve joined Mom’s for Modesty. The mission statement is:
- As a Mom for Modesty I believe in common-sense modesty for girls and young women.
- I believe in refraining from sexualizing our girls and young women.
- I believe that it is unwise and unfair to taunt boys and young men by permitting my daughter(s) to dress in an immodest manner.
- I believe that true beauty comes from within and I strive to teach my daughter(s) this truth.
- I will loyally shop at retailers that provide girls’ and young womens clothing that is modest, affordable and stylish.
I am going to be committed to this whenever I shop for my daughter, and in teaching her how to treat her brother, and other young boys in her life. I will also consider this from now on when I am picking out my own clothing, and to be conscious of how much I’m doing to “beautify” myself with things that are really not necessary, and may teach her the wrong things about beauty. There is nothing wrong with being stylish and modern, as long as it is not done to the detriment of anyone around you. Whether it be causing a man to stumble, teaching a boy that this is what is “pretty” on a girl, or teaching a girl that her value is based upon her beauty and her bad attitude.
What a great organazation. i am an American living in saudi, I wish I could upload a pic of my girls swimsuits. They are absolutely perfect! Very pretty, but extremely modest. Picture a tutu with leggings.
Sometimes I think it would be easier to live in places like Saudi, where the locals often have a dress code. While I don’t agree with all the oppression that goes on, I think it would be kind of liberating to know what the rules are, and not to have your sensibilities offended every time you go out in public.
It seems like fashion is getting worse and worse, these days. While things are often on a pendulum, I often wonder when it will swing back. When will it be ok to not dress like you’re out cruising?